While on her honeymoon, Joanna from Cup of Jo has had bloggers answer the question "What is the secret to a happy marriage?" All the answers are different and thoughtful, but they all seem to say that if you make an effort to know what makes your spouse happy and actually do it then you may be close to discovering the secret to a happy marriage. Honestly I have mixed feelings toward marriage although I am sure that will change when I meet the right guy, but it was very fun and refreshing to read their responses. Some of the responses were goofy while others were heartfelt.
Here is one of my favorite responses from one of my favorite bloggers...
Think play, not romance.
Forget flowers, dinner and candles, and instead play a video game, have a water-gun battle or play in a photo booth (or with Photobooth if you have a Mac!).
Embrace imperfection.
Accept that you're both going to make mistakes, and if the mistake was not intentionally hurtful, let it go. Adjust your expectations and align them with reality (dirty towels on the floor, pre-menstrual hormone insanity), not fantasy (a pristine house, a perpetually perky disposition).
Reinvigorate the Old.
Life's grind sometimes whittles away the parts of us that are carefree, inspired, focused or fun. One of the best things you can do for your spouse is to defend the parts of them that you married them for. And that doesn't mean saying "You used to be so..." It means reminding them that they ARE those things; they're not gone, even on their most beaten down days.
Discover the New.
Embark on unplanned adventures. Often.
-- Nichole, Little Brown Pen
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